Finding Blessings in Singleness

Whether you’ve been single for a long time or you’re suddenly find yourself without a partner, being single can be difficult, especially for those in the church. It’s hard not to hear the messages over and over again about love and having a partner without feeling a little bit down or lonesome.

However, if you do begin to feel frustrated or discouraged, remember that there are many blessings to be found in singleness.

Consider Where Your Worth Comes From

When we’re discouraged, it is often because, on a deeper level, we don’t feel adequate in some way. If you’re finding that your feelings of inadequacy are somehow tied to your relationship status, stop and realize that God has already decided your worth on the cross–with or without a significant other.

The Grass May Be Greener

When you’re in a relationship, you start to realize how many freedoms and opportunities you had when you were single. However, when you’re single, you may begin to long for companionship. This is extremely common and it’s a classic case of feeling like the grass is greener on the other side. Please remember that the grass is greenest where you water it.

Look to Other Positive Relationships

When you’re single, it is a wonderful time to do things that interest you and nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Often a spouse won’t have the exact same interests, but you can spend as much time with friends and family members who do as well. Try new things and get invested in meaningful friendships–they’ll always be there for you and they’re often far less complicated!

Take Advantage of Opportunities Given to You

If God has put something in your path, perhaps now is the best time for you to pursue it. Often being part of a couple can hold you back from doing something like traveling the world or starting an organization that you were meant to start. God may be using this to fulfill his greater plan.

Another opportunity during this time may be to pursue counseling to work on healing things that have hurt you in the past. This is a wonderful time to really discuss previous issues and to help improve yourself for yourself and God, rather through the lens of someone else.