Talking to Your Spouse About Money

Money problems are the leading cause of divorce among couples today. Christian couples are just as susceptible to this type of strain in the relationship, and communication is the key to addressing this problem before it ends in disaster.

Recognizing Signs of Money Disagreement

The first step is to know what signs to look for to determine if your marriage could be at risk. No matter how much you love each other, financial issues can drive a wedge between you. Ask yourself these questions:

• Do you argue over money regularly?

• Do you feel like your partner is wasting money? Do they feel this way about you?

• Are you content with what you own or is there a desire for more? What about your partner?

• Do you hide transactions from your spouse or discover evidence they have done the same?

If you answered “yes” to any of these, you could be facing some financial disagreements and potential relationship troubles.

Communication Is Key

Talking about financial matters can be tough, especially if there are any feelings of resentment or guilt lingering between you. Discussing these issues is the only way to work through them, though. Remember that you are married because you love one another and go into the talk ready to forgive instead of fight.

This is a time for true honesty, even with yourself. Make sure you’re willing to compromise and admit your own mistakes. Your spouse is more likely to respond truthfully when you do, too. Talk about your joint goals and what financial plans you need to achieve them. If you’re not sure in which direction to go, talking to a financial advisor can help. Either way, spend time calmly and prayerfully discussing your finances regularly.